1. Write out a list of every single fear you have.
2. For each fear on this list come up with a list of at least ten reasons why you must get rid of the fear and what it would mean to your life not to have the fear.
3. Then, for each fear write a list of at least five ways in which you can address those fears
4. Then, take action to implement each of those suggestions mentioned above.
5. In relation to one above and for the sake of contrast, for each item on the list come up with a list of ten ways in which your life will stagnate or get worse if you do not address the issues you fear.
6. Make a choice between one and three.
7. Face the fear. The feeling of fear is often times worse than the actual situation you are fearful of.
8. Examine the fear as a way to moving towards disempowering it. What is it trying to teach you? Where did the fear originate from? How long have you had this fear? How does it serve you or not?
9. Engage in positive self-talk, such as, `I can do this’, `I will survive’, `other people have gone through this and made it’.
10. Get help and support from friends, relatives and or organisations.
11. Visualise yourself going through the fear, see yourself coming through the other end having conquered any fears you had. Rehearse each step of the scenario and keep replaying the scenario with you victorious at the end. Keep replaying this scenario in your minds eye until it relinquishes its hold on you.
12. Give yourself permission to make mistakes and get things `wrong’.
13. Give up on allowing other people to judge you.
14. Make a decision that you want to and will change.
15. Start un-programming your negative thinking.
16. Read books on how to deal with fear and undertake the exercises as appropriate.
17. Attend workshops on how to address fear.
18. Seek the services of a reputable Hypnotherapist.
19. Learn acceptance, including self-acceptance.
20. Recognise the huge well-spring of inner-resources to enable you to face your fears.
21. Begin to take more and more control of your life.
22. Standing up and admitting the fear to yourself, goes some way to unravelling it.
23. Go out and do the thing you fear.
24. Recognise that feeling fear is not unusual. In the act of growing we all feel fear to some extent or another. To that degree you are not unique.
25. Welcome fear, it means you are not standing still.
26. A feeling of helplessness and hopelessness is often accompanied by fear. Burrowing your way through this process is an act of liberation.
27. It’s important to understand that, ….`if everybody feels fear when approaching something totally new in life, yet so many are out there `doing it’ despite the fear, then we must conclude that fear is not the problem’. Dr. Susan Jeffers – Feel the fear and do it anyway. The inference here is that how we deal with fear is the real `problem’. Send the fear into oblivion, adopt a new mindset.
28. Take responsibility for how you feel, don’t give anyone else that power over you.
29. Take calculated risks that help to enhance yourself and support you in stepping outside of your comfort zone. The risks may be small at first and what this does for you is to help to increase your self-confidence, incrementally.
30. Turn down the volume of the critic inside.
31. Turn up the volume of the `go-getter’ in you.
32. Addressing fear means recognising that we each have the power of choice. There is usually more than one option in any situation. And where there appears to be no choice – create them.
33. Change your language. For example instead of re-playing like a mantra `I am really scared of this’ how about taking away the intensity of feeling by saying something like, `this is an interesting feeling, what does it want me to know’, `this is curious, let me play around with what these feelings might mean’. Of course you would use a language that most fits with your vocabulary.
34. Create a gratitude journal and write in it everyday so you can see the many things you have to be grateful about. Things are often not as bad as we sometimes feel they are.
35. If the above feels difficult, write a list of the things you could be grateful for. Do this everyday for seven days and watch the list grow.
36. On a daily basis write a list of those things you faced that once you feared.
37. Write out a list of positive quotes for yourself and read and re-read these, particularly last thing at night so that the deeper meanings can become lodged in your sub-conscious.
38. At the point when you are feeling fear, ring a friend and have them remind you about the truth of your power and all you need do is listen and say thank you.
39. Place positive, fearless messages all around your home, so that no matter where you look, you are reminded of your massive inner power.
40. Listen to relaxation and motivational tapes.
41. Be aware of those people around you that want to keep you in that negative space. You might want to make some decisions about who is benefiting your life and who is not.
42. Sign up to a support group. If there isn’t one, start one.
43. Keep yourself energised and positively focused.
44. Choose a buddy, mentor or sponsor – someone who will help to keep you on track and outside of the negative spiral of fear. This person will help to give you a reality check.
45. Make a list of the key attributes you would like to see in a friendship circle, friends that will help take you to the next level. Make a list of places/situations where you might make new friends and take action to getting your friendship circle the way you wish it to be.
46. Write positive fearless messages randomly in your diary so that you are surprised when you stumble across them. This will have the benefit of shaking up your model of the world.
47. Set messages in your mobile/cell phone calendar to greet you with fearless purposefulness when you least expect it. Have fun with being fearless.
48. Take up hobbies that will help you feel empowered, self-confident and motivated e.g. martial arts.
49. Project yourself to the end of your life and write a story and how you have managed to deal with, over come, address fear in your life. Celebrate.
50. Please do feel free to add your own ideas to this list.
I would be glad to be of further help to you. Please do feel free to send me an email
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Hyacinth has been an independent consultant and trainer for the last fifteen years. She is highly regarded and ensures that her training is informative, exciting and presented in such a way as to ensure that all learning styles are catered for. She has shown herself to be more than happy working with personnel at the highest levels in the private, public and voluntary sectors, up to and including members of the board as well as front line staff.
Hyacinth has a proven track record and a particular interest and expertise in design and facilitation of Action learning sets, Career counselling and outplacement programmes, Customer care, Personal Effectiveness for women, Mentoring skills, communication skills and diversity awareness.
Hyacinth is a Master NLP Practitioner and Master Hypnotherapist. She also has a M.A. in Social Policy and Administration